I was part of a study of the people who frequent AFF. It was published at velocitypress.com, and shows that–like anything to do with sex–it is a very sleazy business. Worst of all are all the fake “reviews” of AFF–either barely disguised high praise by some AFF shill–or the opposite by someone paid by a competing site to bad-mouth them.

NEVERTHELESS, The net-net is if you are anywhere near human-looking, and go after women who would find you attractive in real life–you can’t help but hook up and you’ll probably get laid. But it won’t happen overnight, and it you’re 50 years old, don’t sulk if none of the 18-year old chicks ever respond.

Having said that, it is true that in the study, nearly all of the above 39-year old women used photos that were taken 5 to 10 years ago, and most of those cleverly disguised their real weight. A large percentage of these women are short and fat–but some are great looking.

A lot of people scream hysterically that the site is complete rip-off, all the women are fakes, etc., etc. I take these people to be Christian fundamentalists outraged that sex is going on. But the biggest thing to watch out for are the preditors–women out to blackmail married men, women who are diseased but claim to be “Disease free and tested regularly,” and–surprisingly–women pretending to be married who are actually single, separated, divorced or about to divorce who are looking for their next meal ticket. If you’re married and looking for “a discreet affair,” watch out for these babes who, having screwed up their own marriage, are ready to do a real job on yours.

A few rules to follow if you’re an adultfriendfinder user.

1. Do not sign up to AFF if you live in a small town. AFF only works for people who live in large cities. The member ratio is horrible. There are 50 men to 1 woman on this site. The other thing to watch are the fake female profiles.

2. Use a disposable email address with AFF. Once you cancel your membership FF network will sell your email address to spammers.

3. As a male user you will have a lot of success if you’re toned and in shape. You must use decent quality self pics on this site. C0ck pics work fine on this site but your reproductive member needs to be at least 7 inches long. If you don’t use a picture you will be S.O.L..

4. This site attracts many pre-menopausal women who are freshly divorced, then you have chunky girls in the early 20’s range to choose from on this site, finally there are quite a few women in their late 30’s on this site. The worst part is most of the attractive, younger women on AFF are looking for another woman. The quality of the women on AFF isn’t that great.

5. Beware of the attention wh0res on AFF. These women will send you a wink, then you’ll send them an email, but you will never recieve a reply email back from them.

6. As a strait guy on AFF, you will recieve winks and emails from Gay guys. You can use the cupid filters on this website to remedy this problem. Also, it helps to write in your profile that attention from Gay men is unwelcome.

7. The usual fake female profile consists of 1 or 2 High quality model pictures adhered to the profile. Along with text that usually consists of the fake user bragging about how much of a nympho she is.

8. You will recieve a lot of attention on AFF if you’re an active free member. Keep in mind that a free member can reply to emails that were sent to them. Also, free member can view profiles if their profile has a lot of recent views. However, exposing your free profile is time consuming. If you’re going to become a member of AFF it’s worth it to pay for a Gold Membership. This way you will recieve a lot more exposeure on this site. If you pay for a Silver Membership with AFF your profile will become lost in the crowd.

9. Be careful if your looking to hook up with a Girl in her early 20’s that belongs to AFF. Each one of these girls I have met on AFF has some sort of emotional issue. For some reason this rule doesn’t apply to Black Girls.

10. Keep in mind that this website was created for swingers.

That’s my take of it. The only reason I used AFF is because I never had time to leave the house and meet a woman. Otherwise, I had mucho more luck with AFF than a site like match.com. This is because the women on AFF aren’t looking for ‘A knight in shining Armor’, they’re just looking for sex appeal and a good time. Still, you’re just better off hitting the streets than using the NET.

I have been a friendfinder member for about 2 years. In that time I have met many women, and slept with 4 of them. I have had good sex, multiple times, with women from the site. I dont have a huge cock, I am not in great shape, etc. Could it be that theguys who are striking out, simply don’t have any rap whatsoever? So for about $200 per year, I’ve been getting laid steady. Less than I used to spend at strip clubs for a blow job in the back. Im a huge supporter.

I have been registered on this site for about 4 months, I paid for silver membership- You can do nothing really without paying- previous comments are accurate in the sense that women just need put up a profile and sit back and wait for the inevitable flood of responses from male members. The servers are a bit slow at times, and there are a large number of fakes, as i suppose with any dating site. That said I have met a couple of really nice women, and had nice dates that resulted in no strings fun- which is what we both wanted. There are “Queen Bees” women who are very active in chat etc and they know how to work the men very well. I avoid them as they are generally insincere. I have been solicited by two prostitutes who i reported to the site and their profiles were removed within 24 hrs- this was re-assuring. Overall i would say it works well to a point. I find honesty works well and seems to stand out from the crowd, I am bewildered by the amount of guys who put pictures of their manhood up, but whatever. One big frustration is the amount of bisexual and lesbian women who return in searches and “cupid matches” but this is Ireland in the 21st century. You have to realise that Ireland was a very sexually supressed society until recent years and Adult Friend Finder works well as a way to express your sexual desires and hook up with like minded people- its better than the Pub.